Parenting

  • Connecting with Teens Can be Fun

    Well, as of 3 weeks ago, I officially have two teenagers. I feel like I have leveled up in the mom life. Two teens is like two toddlers.  I get a little more respect from other moms.  Not as much as the mom with three or four teens, and certainly not as much as the […]

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  • 5 Summer Prayers for a Tired Mom

    I have a love/hate relationship with summer. I LOVE the season of summer, especially in Oregon. Fresh blueberries, warm (not hot) evenings with outdoor meals, gorgeous sunny days with green everywhere you look. I also love not having to worry about homework battles or making lunches every day. But I also dread summer break. My […]

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  • When Mom’s a Cranky Witch

    Three kids crammed on mom's lap.

    I wrote this post several years ago, and stumbled on it recently. The ages of the players (namely: me and my offspring) have changed, but not much else. I’m still a sinner raising sinners, and we all have really rough days. I hope this still resonates with you as it does me. **** That picture […]

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  • Why I Won’t Tell You About My Son’s “Real Mom”

    I have three kids, and only two of them grew in my tummy.  Our youngest son, Asher, was born in Thailand and joined our family through adoption when he was 22 months old.  Our adoption journey has been amazing, challenging, beautiful and heartbreaking.  It is a big part of our family’s story, and yet most […]

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  • Refined in the fire with every poopy diaper.

    2020 Tompkins family

    (I originally wrote this a few years ago when I had someone in poopy diapers but the sentiment still fits.) This weekend Trent and I were able to join over 1,000 adoptive and foster parents at the Refresh conference near Seattle.  It was a great weekend, spending time together with no kids and connecting with […]

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  • Where have you been?!

    I’ve been having so much fun writing for the Portland Moms Blog!  In case you missed it, here are a few of my favorite articles that I wrote this summer: Why I Won’t Tell You About My Son’s Real Mom 28 Signs You May be a BOY Mom Nine Steps to a Child-Free Vacation You’re a […]

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  • Five Stages of Summer Vacation Acceptance

    As a mostly stay-at-home-mom with two kids in school, I have mixed feelings about summer vacation.  I adore my kids, and love spending time with them.  They are three of the most funny, creative and energetic people in earth.  But during the hours and hours of unstructured free time at home from mid-June to the […]

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  • Struck a chord–part 2

    If you didn’t read part 1, check it out here.   So, I’ve been thinking a lot about the comments people shared with me and why so many people that don’t usually respond took the time to jot something down.  I have a lot of thoughts, but they don’t necessarily come in an orderly fashion. […]

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  • Struck a chord–Part 1

    Last night I put a pic up on instagram and facebook after dinner sometime, and when I woke up in the morning, the picture had over 200 likes and  50 comments on the sites. To some bloggers, that’s nothing, but it’s more responses than I usually get for a simple instagram photo. Today I’ve been thinking about […]

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