Adoption Fundraising Update

I know it’s sometimes uncomfortable and awkward to talk about money, but talking and asking is the only way we’ll get through this, so I want to keep you informed of our progress. Most people have been completely understanding, gracious and generous about the financial aspect of this, and you have no idea HOW MUCH THAT MEANS TO US!

We’ve had a mixed bag of news and information lately regarding our funding of this adoption. FYI, we have an $11,500 payment due at the referral of our child, we have been told to anticipate about $10,000 in travel expenses, and then another couple grand for legal fees once our child is home.

We have applied for adoption grant assistance from three different non-profit ministries, and we have plans for 2 more actual fundraisers. About a month ago, we found out that we received a “promised grant” from one of the smaller organizations. YEAH! Upon the referral of our child (hopefully in June) we will receive that grant. The money can go straight towards our agency to make a dent in the referral payment, or it can be used towards travel expenses. We are overwhelmed with gratitude!

Last week we got some bad news. We found out that there was not enough funds for our family to receive a “matching grant” from Lifesong for Orphans. To be honest, this was extremely disappointing. It has been our intention all along to send out fundraising letters in January, and we know from experience how motivating it is for friends and family to give, knowing that every dollar they give will be matched! I was hoping that would add another couple thousand dollars, but it was not meant to be.

However, Lifesong for Orphans (a name you will see often over the next couple of months on this blog!) is committed to helping families pursue God’s will of caring for orphans through adoption, and although they cannot match funds, they are coming alongside of us as our fundraising partners. They have set up a fund in our name and our friends and family can make TAX DEDUCTABLE donations to their ministry in our name, starting right now. 100% of the monies donated goes directly to our family’s fund–none is taken out for administrative costs. That fund can be used to cover any adoption related expenses (with proper documentation!) and also can be used to make payments directly to our agency.

Today I received some more disappointing news. Our local Applebee’s restaurant has provided the venue for a pancake breakfast fundraiser for some other families in our church. They were to raise money for large medical payments or health crises. I inquired about doing one for our adoption fund, and the request was denied. The manager checked with the regional authorities and this cause did not fit their community outreach goals. 🙁

But we do plan to do another garage sale in June. I can’t imagine it will be as lucrative as the last garage sale, but we’re going to give it a shot.

Also, this week President Obama extended the adoption tax credit through 2012, so that was great news for us! We highly anticipate having to take out a loan to pay for some of this, and then hopefully we can use the tax credit to pay most or all of it back.

Overall, we continue to stand encouraged. We have one more grant to hear about, from Show Hope. The Lord has guided and watched over and blessed our journey so far, we are determined to keep our eye on the finish line (which is really the STARTING line!) and continue towards bringing our baby home.

We’re not officially starting our push, but we do know that if anyone is needing a bit of extra write-offs before year end, you can make those tax-deductable gifts through paypal at and be sure to include that the purpose is Tompkins Adoption fund, #1664.

Thanks to all of you who are still walking this path with us, asking questions, praying, buying Christmas cards, giving encouragement and so many other ways you show your support. Thanks in advance for your patience when we do another big fundraising bonanza next month! 🙂


  1. I just want to encourage you dear friend and THANK you for bringing this to our attention again. Why? Because although it may feel awkward for you asking (which don’t for a SECOND feel bad about!) you are really doing us all a favor by giving us an opportunity to be in on a God-thing. So many of us wonder what we could possibly do to really make a difference. The needs of the world are so great and our contribution so small, we reason. But here we are coming face to face with a child, YOUR child for goodness sake, and we will NOT turn away. Every dime and dollar is bringing this one home. It is a PRIVILEGE to be asked to share in this. Where our treasure is, there our heart will be…and I want a piece of my heart to be with this little one. Love you! God always funds what He favors.

  2. Very proud of you for speaking so eloquently and honestly about your journey. We’re praying for you guys and are grateful for the connections our stories will share along the way 🙂 Lifesong for Orphans is amazing, we’re planning to work with them as well!

    Praying hearts are open and soft to your story, and that many many people give and become part of this beautiful journey.



  3. Thank you for the update! I was bummed to hear about the pancake feed. It was going to be fun. God will make this happen in exactly the right way. I look forward to another garage sale extravaganza!

  4. I am sorry to hear about the matching grant. 🙁 That is disappointing, but I think its awesome what they are doing instead! 🙂 I love that you are not (at least it doesn’t seem that way on your blog) letting it get you down, but are continuing to look on the bright side! 🙂
    I am sure all your fundraising efforts will pay off in the end and I know that God has a plan and will make it clear in his time. Until then, keep your head up, continue to cling to him and his will for you and your family, and I will be praying for you!! 🙂

  5. Thanks for list post. We just were denied assistance for our adoption and it can be very discouraging. We know the God who calls us to adoption will also provide…hope that doesn’t sounds like a cliche. Praying for you too.

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